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Characteristics Of Different Types Of Children

Developing a strategy for belonging 

On this post is an outline of belonging as it affects the different types of bright kids. Have a look at this and see if any particular issues have priority for you or your child, as these can guide you in setting some clear goals.

Characteristics Of Different Types Of Children

Belonging and the characteristics of bright kids 

Healthy belonging


Self - can be direct with people and allow others to see their own vulnerabilities.
Family - is able to be a child rather than a mini-parent. Doesn't have to impress all the time.
School - can complain directly that something is unfair rather than being sneaky.
Friends - has some close friends of a similar age.
Communal values - wants to succeed but can make mistakes.


Self - is energetic and focused on achieving positive goals.
Family - is an entertainer who knows when to stop. Is able to express and receive genuine love.
School - finds positive outlets for skills.
Friends - mixes with a range of friends rather than just those with similar inclinations.
Communal values - wheels and deals.


Self - is able to meet own needs.
Family - feels loved, wanted, and listened to.
School - is able to consider others' needs and to comply with at least some decisions by a teacher without extensive debate.
Friends - is able to take a backseat role at times with friends without feeling mistreated.
Communal values - disputes and debates.

Self - is self-reliant but can accept loss and mistakes.
Family - is able to ask others for help as well as assisting others.
School - is successful but not domineering.
Friends - has some stable friends.
Communal values - wants to succeed but can make mistakes; can occasionally tolerate not winning; tries activities that he/she may not be good at.

Dare Devils
Self - cares for own safety; can plan and assess dangers and risks,

Family - can let others know what the plans are.
School - is able to focus on challenges.
Friends - has a diverse range, from thrillseekers to calmer kids. 

Communal values - engages in thrills and spills; plans for an exciting, adventurous life.

Passive Resisters
Self - communicates openly.
Family - confides and talks through at least some problems.
School - has a trusting and open relationship with at least one teacher.
Friends - has a few positive confidants.
Communal values - spends time alone but can come out of their shell.

Distorted belonging


Self - needs to impress and to give false impressions.
Family - acts like a mini-adult and can out-parent the parents.
School - is sneaky.
Friends - has generally short-term friendships only.
Communal values - seeks adult approval to the extent of alienating peers. Thinks the end justifies the means.

Self - is ruthless, tacking consideration or compassion.
Fami|y - is dismissive of family requests and rules.
School - decides he/she is not good at school and gives up trying. Attains "success" through being class clown.
Friends - uses affection to gain ground. Employs emotional blackmail.
Communal values - trusts no one.


Self - can t accept affection; holds grudges for a long, long time. 
Family - has poor relationships with brothers and sisters.
School - wears teachers out through disputes.
Friends - apart from fellow combatants, has very few true friends.
Communal values - seeks revenge.

Self - is lonely and isolated.
Fami|y - spends a lot of time in their room; doesn't participate in family activities.
School - has a "must win at any cost" attitude.
Friends - boasts, competes, and groats; does not win gracefully.
Communal values - restricts activities to those he/she is definitely good at.

Dare Devils
Self - lacks self-care and consideration for the safety of others.
Family - finds it hard to accept affection and love.
School - finds it hard to settle and focus in class.
Friends - mixes only with other kids with poor impulse control.
Communal values - is ruled by impulses.

Passive Resisters
Self - is isolated and hard to know.
Family - does not participate with or confide in family.
School - loses clothes and property; is close to no one.
Friends - has either no close friends or a few unsociable ones who stand out from the rest of the peer group.
Communal values - withdraws.

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